If you answered a resounding YES! then woo-hoo! Your radiant light is on.
If these questions are kind of irritating, then chances are…your radiance might be drunk under a table in Tijuana somewhere. I get it; mine was there for years. I had no idea it was my radiance that was missing, though; I just knew life felt hard. I was pretty serious, more than I’d like to admit. I put in a lot of effort and still wasn’t getting what I wanted, and then I punished myself for not doing better. I had a 10-piece luggage set of resentments, and aside from those first few hours post-morning-latte, I was pretty exhausted. Needless to say, my light was barely flickering.
It doesn’t matter if a person is 9 or 90 years old; you can tell when another person’s light is on. They’re approachable. You can connect with them. They’re open and full of life. They effortlessly make others feel better just being around them. They walk into a room, and no matter what they’re wearing, what they say, or what they do, they just glow with ease, grace, and joy.
On the other hand, when a person’s light is off, you can feel that too, right? They’re guarded. You instinctively feel like you have to tread lightly, unsure of what to expect. Will they judge you, reject you, resent you? Will they try to prove themselves to you? They seem to feel uncomfortable with themselves, which makes it less comfortable to be around them.
Research proves exactly what we all feel on an intuitive level: various studies have shown we prefer people who display warmth and smile, and some research has shown that we unconsciously sense the emotions of the people around us and tend to mimic them. If someone is radiating with positive energy, we’ll internalize that and feel that same way around them. But if they’re filled with negativity, we’ll sense that too—and probably want to get away from it.
These two kinds of people show up in the world in two very different ways, but there’s actually only one thing differentiating them: the information they’re using to power their lives.